Think about a room full of different people, each one told to choose a favourite colour (they’re not allowed to interact, just choose).
There’ll be several choices wouldn’t there? Blue, Lemon Green, Peach, Red, Yellow, Black…
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What happens when we release a pseudo result and claim that 99% of the people present chose the same colour (say blue). Every single person there that didn’t choose blue thinks he’s the only one that didn’t choose the colour. What might result is that his perception of that colour may change from the time, and even though he doesn’t necessarily like blue, he might be inclined to think that generally speaking, blue is a more beautiful colour than other colours.
Anyway, it’s only a hypothetical experiment.
So, back to the initial result of the experiment.
For some reason, each person chose a certain colour because they had reason to believe that the colour that they have chosen is more resonantly appealing than the others.
Why does that happen? Because we perceive beauty differently. Because beauty is not a one size fits all kind of thing.
Even when two people pick exactly the same colours, their reasons for choosing them might be utterly different.
What then is beauty?
Beauty is, without doubt, an abstract! It lies in the conception. In preferences. In how the mind has been wired to perceive it.
And the deal with abstracts is that they are most often subjective to several definitions- definitions that stem from individual biases. Biases streamlined and subtly polarized by the cultures we’ve come to know and love.
For instance, we gun for the perfect body shape because we’ve come to believe there is a perfect body shape.
We gun for a perfect skin tone because we believe there are standards to it- a unified scale, a metric for beauty which, by the play of circumstances, societal conditioning has made us accept.
Yes, we can assign a definition to beauty provided that we do not base our definitions only on our biases and are willing to accept that there’s more to it.
Beauty runs beyond looks. It is home to every colour. Every skin tone.
Beauty is what radiates from the inside out, not what runs from the outside in.
Beautiful is heart, love, care, unconditional acceptance.
Beauty lies in seeing past our differences: colour; body sizes; religion and romantic beliefs.
There are generally beautiful things that extend beyond looks. Like having choices, like being human, in trying despite our weaknesses to be better versions of ourselves, giving without expecting something in return. That’s beauty at its best.
Beauty is in every variance of definition as long as the definitions are not morally distorted.
Beauty lies in accepting ourselves completely. We don’t get to choose some things in this world. We don’t get to choose how bodies we come in, our families, our heights, and skin tone, but regardless, we learn to look in the mirror and see ourselves as beautiful.
If we do not get to choose, why should we judge another person for who they are, for how they appear, when the circumstances that sequence these events are beyond our controls?